When I married thirty years ago, I kept my name. And when our four children were born, we gave them two last names; their father’s followed by their mother’s as is done in Latin cultures. This is both a tribute to my Puerto Rican roots and an opportunity for the Schembari Negroni children to decide for themselves which name to use. That so many American women still chose to subsume their identity when they get married by changing their name is a great disappointment to an old feminist like me.